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dating an italian man?

i'm 19 years old, hispanic, peruvian to be exact, and i have never been in a serious relationship. i've been talking to a guy for a couple of months now, he is italian and he wants me to meet his family. i'm nervous because i know that he is really close to his family and i want them to like me. but i'm even more nervous because one of my friends told me that his family may be prejudice. i don't want his family to dislike me. i really like this guy and the last thing i want is to not get along with his family, what should i do?

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1. I think you should just build up the courage and go. Guys don't allow girls who they are not sure of to meet their parents. So you are the prize!!! Consider this.......you are gonna have to meet them eventually.
2. if he is inviting you then i doubt he is prejidice. but however be warned that many italian boys are momma's boys and that may cause some difficulties some where down the road. other then that i shall say good luck.
3. Well I can tell you from experience,because my husbands family don't like me either but I look at it like this if you love this guy and he loves you that's all that matters,don't ruin your relationship because of his family.All me and my husband care about is that we love each other and nothing and nobody will change our feeling for each other.You go with your instincts and do what your heart tells you.If you really love/care for this guy you wouldn't care what his family thinks.
4. act normal like yourself and don't act folish try to act intelligent and try your best to make them like you and just relax
5. Put it this way, unfortunately no girl is good enough for a son when it comes to mothers, especially Italian mothers (being an aunty myself, nobody will ever be good enough for my baby nephew haha). So really there is no point in going out of your way to impress them, but of course you want to be liked by them and obviously manners and respect are important for first impressions. I'd suggest being quite subtle and quiet for the first meeting, suss them out, see what kind of people they are and work from there. Chances are they will like you if you are yourself and open to them, but polite and respectable- in short, treat them how you would like to be treated if a girl was talking to your son. The fact that you are concerned suggests that you have standards and are conscientious anyway, so you should be fine! If you are still worried, perhaps also do a bit of research, find out about their customs and traditions and follow them, remember the Italians have a lot of respect for their family, especially mothers! p.s. appearance is important. I'd suggest wearing something quite conservative and classy, wouldn't recommend like a micro mini or a low cut top :P
6. I live in Italy. Okay, why do you think his family would be prejudice? Not all Italians are racists. Plus, you are Peruvian and hence come from a "Latin" culture. Italians are "Latin", too. If his family doesn't like you, it's probably because they don't like YOU. Or maybe because the mom is jealous. Period. If this guy wants you to meet his family it means he really likes (dare I say love) you. Italians have very strong families and Italian guys don't bring "any girl" to meet his momma. I'm sure he's already spoken to them about you and said good things about you. Just relax, be friendly and you will do fine. Hugs.