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What is wrong with interracial dating and marriage?

My friend just broke up with her man because both their family didn't approve them! she's white and her boyfriend is black. i mean they were such a lovely couple! I have some girlfriends who are quite racist. They just wouldn't want to date black men and chinese! How could some people be so racist? My mom is Japanese and my dad is American. they work like "Magic!". They just recently celebrated their 26th anniversary! I've never dated any Japanese even i'm half. I dated an italian before and we loved like crazy! I've dated many Americans but we are just OK. I mean it doesn't matter what colors of our skin, hair and eyes are.., we all searching for love! Beauty comes in many shapes, sizes and colors, doesn't it?

Public Comments

1. To each their own! You like who you like and others will like who they like.
2. 100% agree with you.
3. I think so, that's terrible about your friend. I don't think it should matter what race a person is. I don't see anything wrong with interracial dating or marriage, but it's too bad that so many people still do.
4. People being racist is something that should be gone i AGREE COMPLETELY i can honestly say im not asian and u have a verryyy sexxyyyy pic lol but yea i agree wit u
5. there is nothing wrong with it somr people r just stupid and closed minded
6. There is absolutely nothing wrong wih interracial dating. And personally i would ignore my family if they were racist like that.
7. Not a thing if that is what you both want. Don't expect approval from everyone in the families though...they had other hopes and plans for you or perceived something else. Not your problem really.
8. Who knows why people are what they are...some people are really wary of others cultures, not necessarily the color. Plus her parents might be worried about what others think of her, but I am not saying that is right.
9. your heart and falling in love does not know colors.it only knows what it feels if we act on these feelings it is up to us not parents,friends or whomever
10. If thats the reason they broke up, then it wouldnt have worked anyway. I believe family comes first, but you make your own family when u grow up.. and our first family should love who we love or at least stay out of it. So if its meant to be with ur friends they will over come this color issue.
11. I agree totally...wish there were more people in the world like you...more concerned with the content than the wrapper.
12. the only thing that should matter about the one you love is that they provide the things for you that you want, need, and wish for. if your parents can't see past color to true happyness, don't gat mad and offensive, yelling at them. tell them how dissapointed you are in them, that in this day and age, when the young people are trying to break down the racial barriers society triees to set ahead of us, they are part of the group building that wall back up.
13. I am white and the love of my love is black. It really doesn't matter. If anything, it makes it only more exciting.
14. yea i've been in that situation before, its really hard when you come from families that are not used to the different races. just think how awkward it would be at family gatherings and if you had kids. when you're in love theres nothing you can do about it and some people just dont understand because they never been in the situation before.
15. I don't know what makes people racist. Perhaps it's the stereotypes they were raised with hearing, and even statistics in the news. Things like the fact the prison population is made up of mostly non-whites, so some people take that to mean that all, or at least the vast majority of non-whites must be low life crooks, who probably dropped out of school and don't have a future. Although I'm not a huge fan of Tom Cruise, I do like a quote from him I once read regarding his children being of different races. He replied something like, "What race? We're the human race." Which is true. We are all the same species no matter what color we are, and we all have the same potential to succeed in life and be decent, law abiding citizens. The color of the skin does not determine how we live our lives, the individual does.
16. I agree with you 100% I've dated white men exclusively for the past 7years and I've gotten little sneaky looks from both black and white people..lol But that never bothered me. I date who I want without worrying if my friends approve or not. It's my life not theres.
17. I think you've answered the question yourself hun. It dont matter about colour, shape, size, whatever. Its just a shame that sum people dont see it that way. If your friends wanna be together then they should be. Its got nothing to do with anyone else. As long as they are happy it is no ones business
18. I agree 100%. I think that interracial relationships will only unite our country. You should not judge a person of their color, but of their personality. I am really glad that you are willing to date outside of your ethnic group. Our country should really look beyond the color obstacle. But remember, this is coming from a black guy:)
19. You answered your own question. There is nothing wrong with different nationalities interelating. However, bigotry, unfortunately is something that still exist. It is people like you who can help change that. Never be afraid to express your opinion. Even if it is not the popular one in that group. I try to limit my socializing with people who judge others by what they look like or where they come from or what they do for a living. I have over 300 hundred employees & 90 percent are classified by certain census beaureus as minority & in some cases double & triple minority (hispanic, single parent, female). Some are at minimum wage & some make $25. an hour. I know that they are all important to make our organization run smoothly. I hope I have given you what you wanted. We are all the same.
20. I think there is nothing wrong with interracial dating. I personally have been in an interracial relationship and have been abuse as well as loved. I think that in today's society this is not looked upon as unacceptable but merely a may i said paradigm shift. YES people do look it's normal peolple like to be intrigue and that will never go away. The fact is we should date who we are attracted to and who gives us satisfaction. We shouldn't listen to what i call NEGVAMPS. those are people who are negative and are pesimists. Be positive and everything works out for the best. Take Care and God Bless. GOD loves us and created us in his own image.
21. unfortunately we all have our prejudices or preferences if you will. The only thing I can suggest to you is to remember that people are going to say and think about you whatever their hearts desire. You can't control that, but you can control your reaction to it. So at the end of the day, please don't live your life to make others happy and you miserable.
22. i believe that if u love that person to hell with everyone alse. and yes people can be very racist and i say this from experience b/c im mexican and my boyfriend is punjabi but his family won't accept me b/c im not punjabi. many of my friends; mex. english, americans, are cool with our relationship but there are some who don't think is correct for us to be together b/c of our ethnicity. we have made our own place to live in with the people that accept us and after a year, learned to put up with those who don't. i love him and he returns that feeling and things won't change unless those feelings do.
23. I agree with you totally. My parents taught me that color is beautiful and that the person inside counts and if they are of color that is also what makes them beautiful. I dated a black man. I am still in love with him. I will always love him. I am 5'5'' and he is 6'5'' and you see how blonde I am. I think we made an amazing looking couple. I think he is wonderful and his skin color is amazingly wonderful. I don't understand raist people at all. I am glad your parents met each other and made a very beautiful you. Lets hope and pray that the world changes for the better when it come to color, size and shapes
24. Yes. Ignore those people, they're dwindling in numbers every day. Just ignore it, it's not worth getting stressed over...
25. i agree, but we can't change other people's perspective, you know? Why don't you focus on changing perspectives of people around you that you know of then you can spread it along.
26. its not abt race its the religion for me . i will date someone outside my race provided he is of the same religion as me and i regard this as important..
27. Depends. Probably the opposition to interracial couple calls for the historical background. For example, there are many international marriages between Americans and Japanese since the end of WW2. But most of them(more than 90%) occoured between American men and Japanese females. This would be an insult for most of Japanese men who probably oppose to international couples since many Japanese civilians were killed by US forces and were defeated. It is natural for them to think that winner took their women. Probably Japanese females who married American husbands would be "traitors". At the same time even now very few American women marry Japanese men because they are not supposed to. This kind of things happens anywhere. That includes the couple between German men and French women. After the war, many French women who slept with German men were openly insulted. In one sense, I understand why people oppose to interracial couples.
28. You're the MAGIC!
29. I was married interacially and we had no problems with discrimination (for over 13yrs.) Things ended (only) because he had a size problem.
30. i dont see colour i see the mind and the personality well i just love all ladies whereever they come from
31. My sister marries a white guy. All most of the guys in my family tend to stick to there own race. I think it's a female who like to date and marry out side their race. Guys prefer to bang girls of all races but marry only to their own race. I found my own female race smells better then other race of people and I am more open with my own race.
32. I agree with you strongly!!! I have dated women from all around the world. I can't say that I dated them because the color of their skin. It was because I liked them as an person. Trust me I learned things I like about each one! ;)
33. There is absolutely nothing wrong with interracial dating and/or marriage. As you understand these things, you will enjoy life more so than those who don't. The world of bigotry and racism is sooo limited. Enjoy!
34. i guess
35. It is sadly a common part of this world to have racist people with the old ways of thinking even though our world is morphing into newer racial generations everyday. Alot of it comes out of fear, I know first hand because I do date interracially(or try anyhow) and have married interracially but nowadays...with the guys i'm interested in which are white, they come from families where "muddying up the waters" so to speak is taboo and it's sad cause i have a very accepting asian mom who married a black man who had an accepting family also....