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interracial dating advice?
hi i'm an italian girl and there is this indian boy who really likes me; i like him too. however i am worried about how both of our families will react to us if we go out together; also, most of my friends are italians and his are indian, so do you think this difference in our cultures/background would cause a clash between us?
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- Well I am a black guy into the hip hop style and the girl I recently started dating is a preppy white girl. I havent noticed any clash between us due to groups or backgrounds. My grandma did make a statement to me though, but I just let it slide.
- Well depending on how old both of you are I don't see a problem at all with it. Your best bet in your situation would be to get opinions from both sides. It never hurts to ask in a subtle way, as to not cause alarm if they don't see it as acceptable. Usually the people that ask these questions are a bit younger and I can say this because older couples tend to not really care what other people think unless their opinions have direct impact on their livelihood such as strict parents or what not. The best way to figure out where to go from here is to talk with people. You'll never know unless you ask. This way even if they don't agree and you still decide to go through with it, you will at least had the respect to approach them and that shows that you really care how they feel about things and hopefully they will look past any racial differences. Good luck and I hope this helps!
- The most valuable advice I can give to you (I am in an interracial relationship as well) is that when you are in an interracial relationship, you cannot be thin-skinned. If you like him and the feeling is mutual as you described, be together. Explain to each of your families that you really like one another, regardless of your cultural backgrounds and really would like their support. As far as the friendships go--friends will adjust and most of them probably won't say very much (if anything at all) about you two being a different race, at least if they are TRUE friends they won't. I do not believe your cultural differences/background will clash between the two of you. As long as you're both happy, be together. If your families really want to see you both happy, they will understand. Good luck! =)
- You have no idea how the cultural differences would affect your relationship. My advise don't even entertain the idea, you'll be sorry.........
- It's possible it could, depending on how traditional/conservative or openminded/modern the families are. Many Italian and Indian families from my experience can be pretty conservative so I would expect some problems, particularly from his family. So it depends on whether you guys will be able to deal with the problems when they arise.
