Why Italy - Help, I need some advice from women on how to find myself a girl friend! Serious answers please.?

Help, I need some advice from women on how to find myself a girl friend! Serious answers please.?

OK, I'm 6'3", 195lbs (slender "fit" looking), education: Master's Degree. Salary +$65,000yr, Ethnicity: Europan (Italian, white, brown hair and eyes), "better than average looking", strong Christian believer; political views: Independent, but leaning towards conservatism. Languages: Italian,french, Spanish, and English. Romantic score: 10/10, player score: 0/10. 100% honest. Why is it so hard 2 find a girl friend? It seems that only overweight women like me, and the typicial "hot" brunettes or blondes don't even want to talk to me; hek, not even "average" women pay attention to me. What is it that women really want? Only serious answers please, and preferably from "better than average looking" women above 20yrsold. Thanks! I need some light here! P.S. in my life, I've only dated 7 women, resulting in only one girlfriend (beautiful face, but she was clearly overweight, and completely dumped me after 2 years when I told her that I wanted to wait for marriage until done with school).

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i could lend you mine her name is liza rodriguez. baby wen you see her you are gonna be screaming 4 more.
Just be yourself....Go out with some friends and let them help you. It is worth a shot. Dont get down it will ahppen
go out get a girl dunk and tell her you love her, it it worked on me.
Well u didn't need to explain how u look, all u need to do is find a girl u share interest in n go talk 2 her ask her to hang out with u sometime take things slo n if its 4 u things will go right, good luck
the best thing to do is go up to a pretty girl and be a really sweet friend that does little things to let her know you care and ur hooked ithink
you sound super modest... I have no idea why girls aren't falling all over you. also, describing women as "clearly overweight" doesn't really earn you too may points.
GETTING A GIRLFRIEND MIGHT TAKE A WHILE! TAKE IT SLOW AND THE RIGHT PERSON WILL COME ALONG EVENTUALLY! BE NICE AND RESPECT EVERYONE, THEN VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME AND SEE IF THAT HELPS YOUR CHANCE! MOST WOMEN LOVE TO SEE MEN VOLUNTEERING THERE TIME! SEE IF THAT WORKS! GODD LUCK
Its in your attitude, big girls can sense the lonely vibe you give off. Why do you think those Aholes get some many girls its cuz they act like they don't need them. You need to look, walk and feel confident, if you know that you are more than average looking than you know you look good, you have avery good backround also trying just starting a conversation with someone and stop hoping to be more than friends, its better to start as friends and see what jumps off. Get involved in different things so you can meet different women. And you should probably think about getting a real friend thats a girl that always helps
Maybe you have really high standards and yeah you have alot of things going for you but your 63years why don't you date around your age and see if you start hanging around someone like you and strike for personality first and trust it will last not just some booty call. I'm also not saying go with a big ugly fat girl but a disent person
Looks are only skin deep. No one wants a nice guy. Those people who ignore you or don't even pay attention to you are not looking for nice guys. The typical "pretty" woman so to speak usually dates men that treat them bad. Try conversation first. Let them get to know you better, then go in and ask them out. Most girls go for a fun loving guy.
You have no chance to find a true girl!! Because you talk too much .You have complexes.Women don't care about your salary or your romantic score!! I think you are not so erotic you act like but you are not!!Why do you try to be with an overweight girl and try to help her on her diet!!! Oh man ; what the hell is it? Go and ask any girl you want to be with...JUst look in her eyes and tell her... Be brave man!!!
Maybe you are looking in the wrong places. Lighten up, overweight women are people too! I am told I look like my avatar, so take that to mean that I'm not "under average" looking. Very good looking women tend to be vain and self absorbed so if you are looking for a trophy girlfriend, watch out for being used. The best way to attract a decent girl is to be a decent man. Be straight with girls you are not attracted to and don't be shy of those you are attracted to. Apparently the best marriage mates are ones who are not obsessed with their appearance anyway. If you intend to have a serious relationship that lasts, don't forget most people put on weight through being happy.
You didn't say how old you are or how old you look - that could be an issue but without a picuture it's impossible to say. Your approach could be an issue as well. The fact that you are looking for "hot" women is a big part of your problem. You say you are a strong Christian believer, if so the outside of the package shouldn't matter. If all that you really want is a fit and healthly woman you may need to be more realistic about the type of package that comes in. Also "hot" doesn't really go very well with Christian and conservative. I suggest that instead of paying attention to what the women who are interested in getting to know you look like, why don't you try to get to really know them. If you get along go on a date, after all a date isn't marriage. Try meeting women other places than you have been as well - you might be surprised by the reception that you receive.
you need to clean up,stop being so full of your self . be sweet & funny .i mean its good you think your hot but wise up & make a women feel good about herself. beauty is skin deep not just on the out side but it helps. so choose anight ,dress up good,clean,&cute ;be sweet to the ladies , bye one a drink. get out there & work the game . but always be a little mysterious & aggressive , but not to much..you never know the one might be right under your nose..
As you said you're a strong Christian believer.Everything is in God's hand..He has the best plan for you.Pray.The right one will come OK?You're confident and sound great.Try to improve your personality.I'm sure somehow,girls will be attracted by you.Keep it up and all the best for you!!God bless!!
Instead of trying hard to engage OTHER people's interests in you, stop and attend to your own. Dating site are for dating and fun, occasionally leading to more. If your really interested in finding 'the one'- then stop looking and just do your thing (provided your thing means getting out of the house and being around people...). I am a women who is 30 and in a ltr. I was not looking for one either, I just met the right person being myself. I dated and moved on a lot before that. I wanted someone who complemented who I am, not somebody just like me and not somebody that wanted to change me. I also reject the idea (and likely most modern women do) that I need a relationship to 'complete me'. Get off line and sit down with a pad and paper. Make a list of the must have characteristics of your ideal woman. Since you are Christian, maybe you want to pray to Yaweh about it. Otherwise, just read over it and think about it a few times. Make any corrections you think about. Then fold it up or file it somewhere out of sight and out of mind. Forget about the list and the ideal woman- Find a cause or interest to get involved with, or if you already are, just do it more. When you are ready, she will come.
if you're as good-looking as you say you are, then the problem is in your appearance. a lot of girls (as well as boys) won't go for a hot guy (or girl) if he or she is hot just because they think she or he won't bother. they think that hottie surely has someone more attractive than them. and that causes them to stay away. they say to themselves: "don't look, he's not for you". i know lots of such people who thought the person they liked was too handsome for them and therefor didn't give themselves a chance. I'd advise you to try and show that your appearance is not the point - the point is you.
THEY ARE OUT THERE FRIEND,, YOU JUST HAVE TO KEEP LOOKING... ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT A TEN IN LOOKS COULD HAVE A FOUR IN PERSONALITY....VERY RARE TO FIND ONE THAT IS A TEN ALL THE WAY ACROSS THE BOARD...SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO GIVE A LITTLE TO GET A LITTLE... FIND A WELL BALANCED ONE...7-10 IN LOOKS COULD GET YOU A 8-10 IN PERSONALITY... I HAVE ALWAYS LOOKED AT WHAT'S INSIDE THAT COUNTS....KEEP LOOKING THEY ARE OUT THERE. I HAVE FOUND A FEW...ONE I AM MARRIED TO, AND I HAVE FOUND A COUPLE MORE THAT HAVE GREAT PERSONALITY AND ARE PRETTY GOOD LOOKING...NOT MODELS BUT ARE STILL BEAUTIFUL......AND GORGEOUS ON THE INSIDE....HEART OF GOLD....SO DON'T GIVE UP KEEP LOOKING AND GOOD LUCK....OH YEAH OLDER WOMEN ARE HOT TOO... 2-10 YEARS OLDER THEN YOU...
get off ur a** and go find one
You are too obsessed with a girls' looks - so what if she is a little overweight? Personality is far more important. Who would you prefer; a slightly overweight girl who accepts you for who you are, loves you, is honest, faithful, caring, gentle, etc., or a slim, beautiful girl who is a selfish b**ch who thinks of no-one but herself & uses you for her own gain? Get your priorites right & the right girl will come along eventually (if she hasn't already & you've missed her by being so 'holier-than-thou' Mr Perfect. Maybe the 'hotties' don't think you are as hot as you obviously think you are.
Send a pic bama42223@yahoo.com
I don't know how old you are but girls like myself -some hotties in our twenties want to do more with our lives than our mother did Ex travel, go the extra mile is school, date, have fun , club and sometimes a boyfriend can put a damper on that just wait for a woman whos ready and don't be afraid of rejection keep trying
where do I sign up???
DAMN u me and u have some in common but u had 2 be 20 (TEAR).... im only 16 and i get the boring ones DAMN.........
Girls love it when you act all romantic and dress well for them
you too good to be true or just about 80yrs.maybe you need to loosen up a little..
Try not to be such a chauvinist pig. You don't seem to deserve a woman much less a good looking thin one. Here's a tip: smart, successful, attractive women do not like men who are only worried about what size they are. Do us all a favor and never date again!
you gotta go to the girls!!, don't wait for them to come to you! hmm.. you seem good looking and all, but are you funny?? see, that just might be your problem here. you didn't mention anything about funny, cuz most girls like a guy who can make them laugh. although, when i like someone i tend to laugh at every stupid joke er whatever that they say. you know, you remind me of a guy i know. except for hes way short and doesnt speak all those languages! and his hair is more black than brown. dark brown, whatever. dont worry, you'll find your sweetheart one day!
Woman want to be swept off there feet and treated like princesses and they want it to last for the rest of their life.
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If you're soo much of a christian you should be asking God and not these people what to do...
be your self just try not to gross her out on the first impresion but first you should find out if she's a tomboy or not some girls like that stuff
hm... wierd! Its the same with me,im pretty ect and only dumby guys comes 2me ,shorter then me,chubby and not educated,why? :D
whats wrong with a 200lb 5'3 girl???????
Just be yourself...find someone who shares your interests and makes you laugh. Good luck! If you happen to meet the right woman for you and you got married just don't beat her up just because she's already your wife..Anyway..I think you're a good man.
go on a dateing show, site, 10minute date games
Try being yourself, and don't flaunt all of your educational assets. Some women are intimidated by really smart men. Good Luck!
e quiet--smile a lot---- be where the people are!
Put your future in the hands of God. He cares for you. In the Beginning God created heavens and earth. God gives you air to breathe and sunshine to enjoy. God gives you water to drink and food to eat. God gives you a wonderful body and sound mind, to live. God loves you, and you are precious to Him. Son of God died on the Cross to save us from condemnation. Jesus’ love is boundless and everlasting. We have the hope of Heaven through Jesus. Life therefore has fantastic and glorious future!
try this:Hi,my name is dick.do you like it? it works for me i donnu about you.lol
LIAR
you know serious relationship does not cater for appearance.as you all know "love is blind" it is the outer part is important but how pure the person's soul is and how much honesty she possesses.you have looking for only "hot" brunettes and blondes that maybe you have missed a person who is beautiful inside(mind, heart, soul).it is these things which will remain will death.beauty itself will fade in the long run, then what will happen??you will look for another "hot" person?? i think you are not very confident and happy about your self.i agree with someone who said that you are complex.there is a complexity in you that prevent you to find a true girl friend. but don't worry God has created a pair for everyone and you will get yours one day, am sure..but you need to be yourself and be patient.n bzw no girl is interested i n knowing the salary or the person has a degree or not.what is more important is the person' character, attitude, behavior,if his heart is pure or not, how much he will love and care,is he responsible etc.. anyway best of luck and keep looking!!!
How do you approach women? Are you well dressed, well-groomed, no bad breath? Are you appropriately attired for where you take your date? How are your manners? I dated a guy that ate, in public, and at home, like a caveman, he talked with his mouth full of food, yuck! It was a short-lived relationship. Do you let her talk? What do you talk about? It can't be "all about you. Are all of the girls American? Have you dated Italian women? Observe her reaction to you. Does she constantly look at her watch, does she give you eye contact when the two of you are talking? Make a check-list of what you perceive as your good/bad habits, and/or personality traits. During the date, take mental notes, when you get home, think about the date. Instead of a restaurant, maybe you can suggest a picnic in the park. It's a relaxing atmosphere, no waiters to interrupt your dining experience. If you live in a large city, or, near one, there are catering companies that will prepare a take-out picnic lunch. Get a large blanket, sit on the ground and have fun. It may relax both of you. Good luck. Don't have serious conversations until after a few dates.
only be yourself
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Maybe the 'average/better than average' women know they can't run a scam on you. (Using you for money and things) and they are looking for idiots who will give them things. Try meeting a sweet attractive woman at church. She (hopefully) will be modest and have an active heart instead one made of stone. Good luck on your quest.
hey! all you have to do is be your self... find some friends first then try..courting her... and ... find for your self.. not from others.. your just giving your self a hard time...
GETTING A GIRLFRIEND MIGHT TAKE A WHILE! TAKE IT SLOW AND THE RIGHT PERSON WILL COME ALONG EVENTUALLY! BE NICE AND RESPECT EVERYONE, THEN VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME AND SEE IF THAT HELPS YOUR CHANCE! MOST WOMEN LOVE TO SEE MEN VOLUNTEERING THERE TIME! SEE IF THAT WORKS! GODD LUCK
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Sorry, to hear that you've been dumped. I would advise, forget these 'chat' sites, if your looking for your soul mate. Be realistic, don't set your sights to high. Your more likely to meet Miss perfect, if you just relax. 'Better than average', I find the notion of considering a future mate by this term insulting at least, if not repugnant at worst. Your life synopsis details you as bland. I suggest, if your really interested in attracting someone to share your life with you, you should make it sound more appealing! I would carefully consider, you attitude towards women. You might get more luck! I fell in love with my b/f because he is kind, considerate, selfless, gentle, my best friend and he made me feel valued. Strike up a friendship with a girl, get to know her on this level first. Remember, 'we all loose our charms in the end...' Do you want to be with a beauty on the outside, who is ugly on the inside? GOOD LUCK