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Interracial Dating, Is there a double-standard?
I have a bone to pick! Please feel free to answer my question. I am a black woman, with colombian and indian heritage, who dates mostly spanish, italian and other men than black. I own my own car, home, and I have my m.b.a. I'm in great shape, beautiful, long black hair (not weave). I have chosen to date outside of my race, but I never hear the end of it. At my work I get constant sneers and rude comments from black men, about how I am a sell-out. They even approach me, making comments like "You are a beautiful successful black woman, yet you choose to date outside of your race. Why?, they ask me. When I have gone out with my white or spanish boyfriend's in the past, there is alot of stares, comments, and many black men have tried to fight my ex's. I don't understand what the problem is. These same black men, could be with a white woman, or a spanish woman, yet they want to get upset with me or other successful beautiful black women who date outside of their race. Why? I have nothing against black men dating outside of their race. I am constanly hearing white or non-black women,complaining that black women have issues with interracial dating. I really don't give a damn, about who people date. However I have gone to the movies and seen black men with white or spanish women, and those same exact men, get upset when they see me with a white or spanish man. WHY???? How can they get mad?? I know a black man, who dates only white women, yet he doesn't want his mother to stay married to her white husband. Why??? Why should he care? Please help me understand this stupidity. Why do people care about who someone dates? Believe me, I know that black women are not the only people who don't like to see interracial dating. Because alot of black men don't like it either, especially if the black woman is beautiful and succesful. They automatically tell her she is a sell out. Of course these are not All black men, but I seen alot like this. My ex, even had to fight.
Public Comments
- I think black men dating white women get just as much crap.
- because theyre jealous that they didnt have the guts to ask you out first
- Are you against dating black men, or have you not found any that are up to your standards? I do think that black men experience the same things from black women on their jobs, and out and about. So, no double standard. My opinion is that the aggression stems from their own insecurities and jealousies. You have the right to date and be happy with whomever treats you well. If you are happy, forget about everyone else and do your thing. Good luck! Your update touched on part of the answer - Ignorance, and we have no power adjust an ignorant person's thought process.
- I'm also a very beautiful and successful black woman, and I have some Asian and Irish in my blood, and i couldn't care less who black men date or black women, or anyone else. I dated black men all my life and now I am engaged to a white man. I did not choose to date out of my race, I fell in love with a man that was white. So what! And, yes I have received stares and comments about our relationship, but I don't entertain them, if anything it makes me laugh, because it's actually funny that people have nothing else to do with their lives than to talk about mine, especially when they don't know me. It doesn't bother me the way I see it bothers you. Low self esteem is the reason for these black men that have a problem with this, and I have had white women give me dirty looks and almost run into things when they see us together. I look and I laugh, we go home joke about it, kiss and fall even more in love, untouched by the thoughts and opinions of our society. And just to add... all white men who date black women are not full of money and all black men who date white women are not passing out all of there's to white women, black women who date white men are not all out there looking for a rich white man, and many black women have a rich black man at home, and all white women are not out looking for a black man who will treat her like a queen, and many white women have a white man at home that is treating them like a queen, but whatever it is that whoever is doing, so what....it's their business. People need to get over themselves and mind their own business and date whomever they want to date and let the rest of the world do the same.
