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Are Italian-American men controlling?

My boyfriend is Italian and his family is from up north..He's very close to his mom, which Italian men are known to be. He does things that aggragvate me, though, like tap into my e-mails and look through everything in my cell phone etc..he has to know EVERYTHING. But when the tables turn, he'll get a phone call or see one of his friends, and say "can you go in the other room and wait for me, this is important.." or he'll walk away when he gets a certain phone call and get furious if I follow him. His excuse is that I can't handle certain things!! Once, I wanted to give him a taste of his own medicine and had my friend call me..I did the same; went up stairs and used his lines "this doesn't concern you..sorry, I have to take this..wait here"....he was LIVID..he kicked things , he stormed after me, turned red..went nuts about it..his mom tried to stop him and he pushed her out of his way and caused a big commotion in his house. Is this double standard typical of Italian-American men? forgot to add, the phone call from my friend was made a restricted number Input is very appreciated!

Public Comments

1. That can be a typical standard of any man regardless of their race. But I would be careful of him.
2. I say break up with him. If he is this controling now then how will he be in the future? Think about it.
3. My husband is the same way. He's Italian. he is such a mama's boy. He looks into my emails and even checks my business laptop in the history. i asked him one time if he was checking up on me, he said he was just looking for a site he visited the other day when he came to my shop. Bullsh*t. I know him. He checks my cell phone when I'm not around. He checks everything when I'm not around. I asked him if he found something on me or if he just didn't trust me. He is so nosy. If I were to do anything like he does he would blow a gasket. I let him, he hasn't found anything and won't. So happy hunting I say. Sometimes it pisses me off. But other times I wish I did plant something for him to find. He would freak. Serves him right. Good luck with your BF and if it gets to you too much, tell him if he doesn't trust you enough then you will leave. He should straighten up.
4. Absolutely NOT... Although the Italian Culture may reflect a certain "the man runs the show" way of life, what you are describing is abuse. The biggest red flag I saw here is that he PUSHED his mother.... if he has no qualms about pushing his own mother around, he will not hesitate to beat the life out of you if he feels it is justified in his mind. I would run and never look back. He feels the need to run your life and control your every move. There is never ever a good end to this kind of treatment. A real man, no matter what his culture, will treat you with love and respect. He will know that every human being needs their own space and will trust you when you have it.
5. Does the Mafia exist? Ask Hoover.
6. u cant really say all Italian-American men are the same because that would be generalizing.... not all Italian men are bad at all and like in every culture there are also some exceptions... from my experience i have not met an Italian man like your boyfriend...